Follow your heart

Saturday 8 March 2014

Looking at him struggling between his heart and his reason really reminds me of myself and all the lessons learned over the years. You can find pieces of your heart in strange places…places that you never would have imagined, but only if you have faith, and you dare to explore and to risk...Your heart will always bring you where you’re meant to be.

I used to ask myself, would I rather die with a confident smile or die completely happy?  Now, the answer is clear. If I follow my reasons, I would certainly die with a confident smile on my face, but I will not necessarily be completely happy and without regrets.

Convincing him to follow his heart really makes me mad, because I clearly knew that I would not be able to convince him in the long-run. No matter how many times I inspire him with my words, his reason always comes back eventually. You just can’t convince someone to see something they don't want to see. He doesn’t see what I see, because of our background differences, the roads we've travelled, and the faces we've seen...

I don’t know much about him, but I believe in my instincts. I think he comes from a more conservative environment. There were norms imposed on him as he grew up; someone else’s beliefs were taught to him. But he eventually grew tired of it, maybe very subconsciously, and he wanted more in life. He didn’t want to be restrained. Obviously, you don’t just detach yourself from your background so easily.  It is indeed safe and comfortable to follow the norm, but every major improvement in this world started with someone breaking the rules.

I feel like, he never questioned those “politically correct” principles; does he know even the reasons behind his principles? I was able to move him with my words, even if it’s for a short moment, because he doesn’t strongly believe in those principles either. Confusion only exists when you believe in ideas that are not your own. When you start developing ideas of your own, you can start creating the life and relationships that you want; with passion and splendor. Passion doesn't have a reason.

...actually, even based on reason, I don't see any legit reasons.

I can tell that he's the type of person who would not be able to tell a mean truth...but he would not tell a nice lie either...instead, he gives you the worst of all; a cruel silence. I forgive him because I can see his struggle. He once said that he tends to do the “right” thing and not necessarily the good thing for him, which means he is not a selfish person…but this is also the reason of his struggle. There will always be struggles when you’re not loyal to yourself.

Life sometimes sends you those people, who steal your heart in an instant; they show you a possibility, a chance to grow, to change, to challenge the status quo, to show you that expanding landscape. Other times, we’re that person.

Following your heart isn’t about a feeling; it's an ability...which takes time to learn. If you’re able to learn this, the whole universe will help you find your way. "Well you know where to find me if your heart takes over again…" I said, and I hope that with time, he will learn to get to know himself better, to develop his own ideas, to be more confident in what he believes in, and from there, he will be able to create splendor as well…
 
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